Mental Clarity

Do you feel like this year has flown by? So fast, that you’ve completely lost control and feel like at anytime it could derail? Or maybe it’s already derailed and your just rolling with the punches to make it through the rest of the year? 

We don’t have to let our lives run us. We are in control. Sometimes it just takes you being intentional about throwing on the emergency brake, grabbing the reins, and deciding where your life is going. I wish I could tell you that this is an easy thing to do. I wish I could tell you it’s as easy as thinking a pretty thought before bed and “POOF”, when you wake up you are back in control. But, the hard truth is it took some time for you to lose control and it will take some time for you to get it back. On the bright side, this is the perfect time of year to do it. You still have plenty of time to clear your mind and get intentional. Plenty of time to make the absolute most of the holidays and set your goals for 2020. If you starting taking steps to take control now you can not only end 2019 with a bang but, you can make 2020 your best year yet!

So, are you with me? Are you sick of starting every year great but ending it feeling like you just got ran over by a semi? Sick of the holidays being a blur of headaches and stress? Let’s start right now and make this year different. Let’s end this year feeling clear headed and in control. Let’s end this year excited about what 2020 holds. Let this holiday season be full of peace, enjoyment, and great memories. And let’s start 2020 with a plan and a vision. 

The first step to taking your control back is to clear your mind. Mental clarity is going to be your greatest ally in taking the reins back. Like it told you earlier, this is not an overnight process. It’s going to take some time and work but, man will it be worth it.

I want to discuss with you the importance of getting quiet. Our lives are full of running and chaos. We get pulled in 20 different directions and then at night we are typically so tired we just crash and begin the vicious cycle again the next day. To be the best for yourself and your family you owe it to yourself to take 15 to 20 minutes to just get quiet. 15 to 20 minutes to sit in a quiet relaxing place and just be present. Light a candle, burn some incense, or diffuse essential oils if you want to help you relax. Take this time to just sit and let your mind stop. If you catch yourself starting to think about something just stop, and bring your mind back into just being present in the moment. Don’t listen to music or focus on the sounds of the birds outside. Wear ear plugs if you must. Just focus on being present in the moment and not thinking about anything. Focusing on my breathing helps me to do this. At first it might seem a little weird, hard to do, or you might even have trouble staying awake. But, don’t give up. Keep trying. Pretty soon you will get the hang of it. This time to get quiet will not only clear your mind but, it will give you energy, and help you to be more intentional. Personally, I went from thinking this seems weird to looking forward to my quiet time everyday. 

5 Tips To Help You Get Quiet


I love to get quiet outside before everyone gets up for the day. Others prefer to go into a room or even a closet and shut the door. Just make sure if there are others in your home you tell them that this is your quiet time and not to disturb you unless it is an emergency. Now, if your kids are anything like mine, it may take a few times to actually define what an emergency is but, eventually they learn to give you this time. 


Light a candle, burn incense, or diffuse essential oils. There are several scents that actually help you to relax. Search for relaxing or meditation scents on Pinterest and try a few out. Decide which ones work best for you.


When getting quiet don’t wear clothing that is too tight or restrictive. You want to be able to sit comfortably and not be distracted about your pants being too tight or the underwire in your bra. Also, make sure your space is comfortable. Make sure the temperature is comfortable as well as the surface you are sitting on. Sit on a mat, pillow or even a cushioned chair. 


Whether you are sitting on the floor or in a chair try to sit straight and tall. Slumping or lying down will either eventually lead to soreness or falling asleep. You want to be alert and having good blood flow for your quiet time so sit with you back straight and tall. Relax your arms on your legs with you palms facing up. If your in a chair plant both feet on the ground. If your sitting on the floor sit with crossed legs, knees wide, shins crossed, and each foot below the opposite knee. As kids we called this position criss-cross apple sauce. If you have trouble staying awake the floor seated position is the way to go. 


Do not have a visible clock in your quiet space. This can be a huge distraction. If time is an issue simply set a timer and put it out of sight. That way you know it will alert you when your set time is up but you can focus on being present instead of what time it is. 


Start today taking back control of your life. Practice the simple skill of getting quiet. It is absolutely profound what doing something so simple can do for your life. 

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